I totally agree with Farmergirl's assessment of this situation, Lola! You have been even and tempered in your response to your former therapist's uneven and ridiculously self-serving response to your attempt to gain some closure. I know that doesn't take any of the pain or angst away from how you feel right now. BUt please know that this is truly her issue . .. it is her failure as a professional and NOT YOURS!
I hope that you are able to find the support and caring that you deserve!