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Originally Posted by scorpiosis37
Another time, T said something like "oh, you look pretty today" and then about ten minutes later, she was like "wait, you know I wasn't making a pass at you, right?" I about fell out of my chair! OF COURSE I knew she wasn't doing that-- I was shocked it could even cross her mind that could be a possible interpretation of what she said! This then led to us clarifying that there was no sexual attraction or tension between us. The way she said it was kind of hillarious. She told me what her type was (the opposite of what I am) and then she was like "but, I mean, you're very pretty, you're just not, I mean..."--- I stopped her and was like IT'S OKAY!!! You don't need to justify why I'm not your type! lol. T already knows what my type is (the opposite of what she is) so I didn't feel I needed to say a whole lot... I mean, I didn't want to say "gee, T, you're so awesome on the inside but outside... well....uh..." While this whole conversation was certainly awkward, it wasn't really embarrassing. I mean, the whole point was that we DON'T have embrassing feelings for each other... well, at least not embarrassing in a sexual way!
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Originally Posted by CantExplain
I have exactly this problem. My T is a beautiful person, but... She's OK to look at, but...
I can't tell her she's a beautiful woman, because her appearance is just not that special. I told her once that her hair was "a non-performing asset". (I feel really ashamed to write that down. How can I think that! Ungrateful wretch that I am!) So I tell her she is a wonderful woman instead.
I once took a picture of her. It shows nothing of what I see. In the photo she looks drab and nervous.
Appearance aint worth ****.
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I know this part of the thread is old, but I have to comment...I've never thought my T was attractive.
Maybe cute with her personality. Last week, we sat together on the loveseat facing each other and it was the first time I really
looked at her. And I realized...well, I felt I was more attractive than she, and that's saying a lot for me!
One time when my bisexuality came up (and she had no problem with it), I assured her I wasn't attracted to her that way, she wasn't my "type"...that she was a "mom figure". It wasn't a big deal, she just said okay. In the past, some straight women, when I told them I was bi but not attracted to them, have actually gotten offended that I wasn't attracted to them. I hate that stigma of "You're bi? Wow...you'll sleep with anything!"
