I didn't mean that they had sex with adults but no matter, that was off topic anyway.
I don't know what we do but you telling me that they don't serve long sentences bothers me. That was news to me. As far as blame...in this one it's the guy who will or should bear the most. I just have a hard time with black and white thinking in situations where there is so much grey area.
He has to be very immature emotionally and mentally challenged to think that this "relationship" ever had a chance and then to still think it could work. That's totally irrational. That doesn't excuse him or mean he shouldn't be punished. If he is this way at 33yo then I don't see him changing much in the future so I don't know what you do with him. Please don't think I'm sympathizing with him Anika...I'm not. What he did can't be excused or condoned.
I'm sorry if anything I said upset you.
Try not to let what happened trigger you