""Like go for a walk or meditate?" I replied (her two go to responses to stress)."
--oh, don't I know that one....My T harps on excercise in moments I want him to just CARE.

So sorry to read about your T's clumsiness...your T may care very much but is bumbling around trying to connect with you. I hope your T calls and tries to reel you in. Rupture and repair is the name of the game. Repair feels good...wait for it if you can.