So sorry to read about the pain.
I really hate the phrase "sitting with it"; lots of T's like using it but I feel like it shows a deep misunderstanding of what is going on.

If you were on fire, would you just "sit with it"?
If you were drowning, would you just "sit with it"?
If you were covered in bees .............................

Anyways, when I put it to my T like THAT I think he finally "got" me, and why that phrase is so hurtful. Wishing I could put out that fire for you.