I've asked that question many times at the begging. And sometimes still do. But no...you're not your disorder. Your disorder just causes you to display inappropriate anger occasionally, and that can be helped with medication, and therapy to find out who you really are and what you really stand for. That is the whole thing about this disorder. Who am I? Right now...I tell myself I'm my kid's mom, and I do what I can to be a good mother to them. I'm also a wife, and I do what I can to support my husband. Now do I question if I'm doing a good job? Every single day, and sometimes my disorder gets in the way of doing laundry, and being in a foggy state where I don't notice things that other people do. Sometimes my meds get in the way of actually caring about those things. I'm trying to learn to take care of myself first, however...I have the obstacle of having five children. So I just do my best every day. Sometimes that's freaking awesome, and sometimes it is what I consider sub par. I hate doing laundry and cleaning. A maturity thing most likely, but it overwhelms me. So then I start wishing I was 'normal.' But we aren't disorders and diseases...we are people who function differently sometimes, and occasionally respond in ways other people don't. I'm not BPD and BP...I'm someone who apparently has a big heart. Takes care of sick people in my home. I love everybody in my home, and could never live without them. I like nice things, and I'm very creative. I can cook pretty well, and I would do anything for all my friends and family that ever needed anything. That's who I am. Just because I get pissy...and argue a lot...doesn't mean I'm a nut ball. It just means those are my 'issues' to work on, and other people have other issues to work on. Such a weight, or blood pressure, or learning disabilities. But these people are also people. They just have different 'crap' to work on and deal with. No. You are not your disorder. I promise.