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Originally Posted by athena2011
Maybe your relationships take on an obsessional tone. Maybe you are so attentive, so interested, so loving, so perfect at the beginning, how can they not find you adorable? And maybe you do it because you are also getting caught up in the excitement of having a new friend...until you burn out and can't keep it up anymore. What if you slowed things down? Forced yourself to back off, not be in touch quite as often. Kind of an 'absence makes the heart grow fonder' approach. Just a thought.
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They tire way before I do! It's not that I stop giving certain things, it's that my true self starts to come through. I think. But I do think part of what draws them to me in the first place is how attentive and focused I am. Strokes their egos and all that. Making people feel special - that's the only way to attract them. But after a while...maybe my attention becomes a burden.

Seriously upsetting when some people asked for it in the first place, even after I warned them. They said they could "handle" it. HA.
Omg, slow things down? Not be in touch as often?? These are serious failure points of mine. I feel driven to keep obsessive tabs on anyone I like. I want to hear from those people every single day, preferably multiple times a day. I've been told by people who've been around me for a while that I'm (too) intense and that I'm really obsessive. And I am very obsessive. But I can't seem to help it.
With the new friend I mentioned before - I'm trying SO hard not to ask for reassurances that she likes me every 5 minutes. I'm chill until I start thinking I want someone around, and then BOOM - I become instantly neurotic and obsessive. :/ And to think, she thinks I'm hyper and intense NOW. I'm debating (and have been debating) over whether I should just drop the friendship and run while I still can. But at the same time, I NEED the support and contact. Ugh.