You are not screwed up!!! Everything you're thinking/feeling is just fine and where you are right now. You were right above, the first step is recognizing that you have difficulties with boundaries--good job! Now you take steps 2-10 (OK, maybe not that many), some of them non-linear. If T is continually triggering this feeling of inadequacy, not good...

Please have fun this weekend--do some stuff to distract yourself!