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Originally Posted by widgets
What are your experiences with this?
I have one night stands and justify them to myself, because i know i'll never have a boyfriend, so does that mean i'm never allowed sex?
They dont do much for your self esteem, but as long as i am completely in control i think i have the strength to cope.
Not really sure what my question is.....
Is one nighters a BPD thing? Or am i just awful?
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I don't think anyone's awful.
No, one-night stands never felt too good to me either, but for me they were easier to deal with because I was not so afraid of the abandonment risk involved as there was when I was "serious" with someone. I always knew it would be over in the morning.
I did stop doing them, though, because I still found that I could not really help how weird I felt afterward. I realized that I could not just brush off s*x, but like you, I did not think I could ever be loved that way. So I completely cut off, esp. after my recent divorce...
I have a bf now, but we're together "for now". He mentions anything more and I freak out.
B.