I don't take the boundaries personally; they're like the room itself, just there to provide space for T and I to work together. If I were T, I'd have a harder time listening and paying attention, being as curious and non-judgmental about what makes her tick instead of thinking about my own interests and concerns. I guess I'd try to make it like reading a good book, where you have to keep reading and are "with" the characters as the story progresses, even when they are "safe" and resting after being attacked by the bad guys :-)