First, I must agree that your posts are emotionally honest and brave--I wish I could bring myself to detail in one post the most painful parts of my experience.

I don't want to offend you, but now that I have a better understanding of your situation, something sticks out for me. I know that you see a Christian counselor, and I know that you are bi. You have mentioned that your T mentions "separating sin from sinner" etc.

The issue of touch, for me, seems like this masks the deeper rejection you may feel because of her moral stance. This is where the therapy I am used to greatly diverges from what your T is doing. Morality judgements are not standard in therapy, only if you are hurting yourself or others does it even approach morality issues. Non judgement is a vital part of therapy.

You seem to have a great relationship w/your T--I would be reluctant to say go elsewhere. But this might be an impasse that is not your doing. To me, this is a fault of "Christian" counseling. I mean no offense to your beliefs.