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Old Mar 17, 2012, 10:39 PM
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Originally Posted by growlycat View Post
I don't want to offend you, but now that I have a better understanding of your situation, something sticks out for me. I know that you see a Christian counselor, and I know that you are bi. You have mentioned that your T mentions "separating sin from sinner" etc.

The issue of touch, for me, seems like this masks the deeper rejection you may feel because of her moral stance. This is where the therapy I am used to greatly diverges from what your T is doing. Morality judgements are not standard in therapy, only if you are hurting yourself or others does it even approach morality issues. Non judgement is a vital part of therapy.

You seem to have a great relationship w/your T--I would be reluctant to say go elsewhere. But this might be an impasse that is not your doing. To me, this is a fault of "Christian" counseling. I mean no offense to your beliefs.
I have chosen to believe T when she says that she does not judge people based on their sexuality. It's nice to know she has comfortable, long-term friendships with individuals who choose to live a gay lifestyle. She doesn't judge them, she respects them and their belief systems. She hasn't judged me thus far; and the one time I thought she did, I was completely mistaken. T has been very nonjudgmental from the get-go. She says it is not her place to judge others for any reason, in therapy or in life. She feels strongly about this. That's why I was completely taken aback when I misunderstood her; it was completely unlike her!
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Thanks for this!
growlycat