I do not respond well to being pushed, commanded, ordered, etc. The t I see has pushed and I have pushed back, gone away and flat out attacked to push her back. I personally will reveal when I think it is safe to do so and if the t backs off, then I can get to it, if the t is pushing, I get so engaged in making sure I am only revealing what I want for me and not in response to pushing, that it gets to be a battle for me to make sure she is pushed back far enough that I am safe again. The t has now learned not to push if I clearly indicate to back off. It seems to work because once the t has backed off (shown respect for me, is not trying to barge through my boundaries etc) - then I can go there some. In little increments.