My T is always different on the phone even though she allows outside contact. Shes Short with me, cold, and basically give me some textbook support instead of her normal warm responses like she does in session. I realized that me contacting her doesn't serve me because I can't get what I need in the context of a text or phone call. I think I was expecting more like what I get in sessions, but I lowered my expectations and realized its just not possible because we aren't in session. Once I changed my thinking about how the phone calls should go, my anger at T went away and now I rarely ever feel need to contact her, unless it's for scheduling. But, that's just the way I see it.