Further - in terms of support maybe there is a difference for those who gain strength or succor through outward showing of it in direct and effusive ways and those of us who seek less of it and in more prickly ways. A friend of mine loves t when her therapist tells her she did a good job and she can feel uplifted for days by it. I feel like the therapist is being condescending if she tells me good about anything. I don't look to her to tell me if something I have done is good or not, what difference does it make to me how she feels about something I did and so on - I respond with get the f away from me etc.