I will also say that one of the best things I get out of this forum in particular is a check on my perceptions. When I was with my exT, and in what I can see now as an unhealthy relationship, I had no one else's therapy experiences to check my own against.

It was just me and her and that room. With no prior therapy experience, it was a bit like growing up in an abusive family. It feels normal. I feel much safer about the quality of my new T because I have others experiences on PC to check my own against.

Now it's me and her and that room and the collective experience of PC. That's support that will hopefully keep me from ever staying mired in an unhealthy therapy relationship again.