I cheat :-) When I feel someone I am dealing with and like does not seem to care about me, I go back to being "selfish" and look at why I, myself, am in the relationship? We aren't in therapy to be cared about, we are in therapy to learn how to care for ourselves properly? That other people who care for us have trouble showing their care for us only makes me feel better about myself; I'm right here with me and though I make mistakes with myself, I can instantly "fix" that mistake to my satisfaction!

On the "Daily Challenge" site today I was challenged to not eat or drink anything sugary tomorrow until midday and see how my energy felt. Today I had sweetened coffee and 3 Dunkin Donuts glazed doughnuts and "plan" to compare that with unsweetened coffee and a bowl of oatmeal tomorrow

An Arabian proverb says, "All sun makes a desert". If our T's were "perfect" in caring for us, what would we learn? We would not have to learn what was good/less good for ourselves; what we liked, what we did not like, would we? When we left therapy, would we know how to care for ourselves, having no practice?

I believe therapy is about that contrast between knowing what feels good to us and learning who, what, when, where, and how to attain it? The learning requires "mistakes" or we can't see what it is we need to learn.