My therapist taught me the difference between them; asked me to name a friend (my husband) and asked for 3 reasons they were my friend (he's "warm", "fun" and "friendly" :-) She then compared that list to my stepmother, whom I loved and. . .nope, doesn't cut it.

Friends we choose. We don't necessarily choose who we love. We want to hang with friends but not necessarily with those we love. Having a person fit both categories (my husband :-) is the best!