My T has admitted that he has discussed me with his wife and one really close friend, without using my name. I was kind of like, whhhhhhaaaaaattttt? You know what I do for a living, right? You know that *I* refuse to discuss anything about my clients even if I'm not using their names, right? What could possibly make you think I'd be okay with you talking to your friend about me? However, when he explained the context and the kind of things he said, it made it okayish with me. Truly nothing that could really identify me (at least in the things he said to his wife).

Contained within the things he said to his friend was information that might, possibly, conceivably, if the friend and I were ever in the same place having an in depth chat, identify me. The context of that conversation (at least my impression from what my T said) was my T kind of working out some of his feelings for me. He was talking about wanting me to teach him to ride, wanting to going camping with me, etc. He talked to his friend about how much he wanted those things. He then talked to me about the reasons why neither of us get those things.

For me, it was the development of the relationship between my therapist and me that has reassured me that he may talk about certain things about me. How excited he has been with my progress with his wife. How he feels about me, and keeping control of that with his friend. However, I trust that he will never reveal my "stuff" to either of those people. Those horrible things that I can just barely say to him and cannot stand the thought of anyone else knowing will stay safe with him.

I think as your relationship progresses, you will learn to trust, or learn that you cannot trust, your therapist.