Just an observation here that may be alienating to some: I've seen some people whose identity is based on their disorder. In a way they seem to glamorize it and embrace it as a lifestyle. That doesn't seem to be what you're doing at all and no I do not think a person is their disorder. I haven't met any of the anti-social, histrionic, or so-called psychopathic members so I can't be sure I could say the same about them.
Seems like a very good question though.