you stated number 1 had to return to foster care? there has been more than this time? I am sorry you are going thru this but the kids have to come FIRST. meaning you have to protect kids from abuse at any cost. Kids never need to see mommy being beaten on or abused verbally. Her agression towards the younger is what she has learned seeing her dad and mom fighting. That is a terrible place for a child. I speak this from experience. My daughter lost custody of her son due to a bad boyfriend. That was over 5 yrs ago. Now she sees her son 2 times a month. I hope you can get your young daughter some much needed counseling really fast! Take care of yourself and your children. They are so precious.