I've been with my t for quite a while, she's great. The worst thing about her is she lives 1000's of miles away. We used to meet in person, but now we have both moved a couple times and so we do skype or phone sessions. It's not ideal, but it works and I am thankful that she has been open to this rather unconventional way of doing therapy.

I was having a beer (or 6- hey, it was St Patty's day) with a friend yesterday and he said he would like me to come to his t with him. He thinks I need to see someone (I didn't tell him about my t, but then again he didn't ask) and he thought it would be helpful if we went together. I'm tempted.

I'm just conflicted. I know that my t and I aren't married, I don't owe her any allegiance, it isn't actually cheating. I know that. But I feel like I'd be sneaking around. She has been so accommodating of me and now I want to find someone new. I guess I could tell her and see what she says. In reality, she'd probably be happy to loose me- I require odd hours because of the time zone difference and it would free up her evening.

Oh, and my current t is my first and only time I've been in counseling. Maybe that's why I'm making this so difficult.

Any thoughts?