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Originally Posted by morsecoded
That's the problem...I can't. (Can't switch off the obsessive tendencies.) I mean, I can be physically alone, but I need to be emotionally "touched" very often. If I've got no one who can make me feel like that - no intense relationships - then I'm emotionally absent from life and feel dead. I can't stand that nothingness - it makes me feel very self-destructive. I live to find people I can love and obsess over, and to find people who can love me (and hopefully obsess over me a little, too). Without them, there is no reason. Nothing else is enough. I can't switch it off.  |
I totally get what you are feeling. But I wasn't aware of my tendency to do this until about a year and a half ago. That was a little after I quit working. I had a really high stress job before that and didn't have any energy to worry about being on my own. I also started therapy about that time. I think maybe being awakened out of my workaholic 'robotic' state caused me to notice what was missing. I think a balance is needed - enough meaningful activities to absorb us in the present and enough meaningful relationships to satisfy our need for human connection. Internet friends are great but one has to have a handful of face-to-face friends too. I think the more obsessive one is, the more friends one needs...so that we don't place too much of a 'burden' on any one friend. I don't know, that's just where my head's at at the moment. I still think that's not going to solve the whole problem. I think there is still something that has to be worked through.