This is one of the reasons I wanted a "warm" r/s with my current T, so I would stop acting like a lost puppy and following home anybody who showed me the slightest bit of attention. I would say both my parents were like that - they just lived in the house. They would have my (older) brother talk to me, like once he had to tell me I couldn't become a nun, they expected me to get married. That was pretty much the extent of their "parenting". Honestly, I had no idea what I was missing. I remember telling my mother once that I thought she should talk to me more, but she refused to, so that was that.