I must admit it took me a loooong time to reach that point where I can put the blame back onto the abusers (in my mind). I did a program last year in Australia that has changed my life and this week will commence to come off my anti-dep's. It is about letting go of what was never meant to be mine but belongs to the abusers. It is also about valuing the child within, listening to him/her and loving him/her.