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Originally Posted by brookwest
I told them how taking my inventory revealed to me a very important charecter defect that was self-defeating and making addiction almost neccesary. It was that my past was affecting me too much in my present. I said that even though it wasn't my fault that I was burdened by past trauma, It was, nevertheless, my responsability to cope effectivly with it. It isn't fair nor right, but our world today is neither fair nor right in most cases.
Sometimes I think I'm wasting my time in AA. I dislike listening to people talk negativly about themselves. I don't want to encourage them to think those mean thoughts about themselves.
It is a way to pass time and be social though.
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I told them how taking my inventory revealed to me a very important charecter defect that was self-defeating and making addiction almost neccesary. It was that my past was affecting me too much in my present. I said that even though it wasn't my fault that I was burdened by past trauma, It was, nevertheless, my responsability to cope effectivly with it.
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so true, brookwest. we internalize events that we don't really "own" thus resorting to the bottle to block it out. in the big book it mentions that sometimes it's helpful to seek out professional help. i did this at the same time i got sober. i had too much baggage and couldn't fix it alone. thank goodness cause previously i would return to drinking and i was unable to stay sober. the end result was i was well equiped to grasp what AA taught me too.
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Sometimes I think I'm wasting my time in AA. I dislike listening to people talk negativly about themselves. I don't want to encourage them to think those mean thoughts about themselves.
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why not encourage them to see the good things. e.g. they are fixing the problem by going to AA? also i learned that those who talked negatively about themselves was me at one time!! what i did have to offer was my experience, strength and hope to those who felt so worthless. you might want to try it. you may make a change in that person's life. you can share also how you relate to their plight and how you overcame those feelings of worthlessness.
you have much to offer!!!!
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Last edited by madisgram; Mar 19, 2012 at 09:26 AM.
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