What do you want? If you want him to come, get his stuff and leave, why pick a fight? So he's disrespectful and not a good user of words, if you know this, "pushing" him with your words, taunting him in a sense, is not a good idea? He's not suddenly going to become respectful of you, you can't "make" him be respectful. Getting him out of your life as quickly as possible sounds like a good plan!

What do you want now? The previous is over. He left. There's nothing to be "done" about it now. Does he have his stuff, is he out? If not, next time he comes, don't say much of anything, have his stuff boxed and ready (?) and stay out of his way and let him just do what he comes to do?

If you said to him, be here by 10:00 and he wasn't there by about 10:30, why did you not bolt the door if you didn't feel well and did not want to be disturbed? Why "threaten" someone with what you could-have-done? Do or do not, there is not "could-have". You could have taken his stuff and thrown it out the window too Say what you mean and mean what you say. If you decided to wait up until he came; that was up to you so take it the whole way; if you decided to wait up, you are up and he came when he came. There should be no argument there because you decided to wait for him so why wait with a chip on your shoulder? If the "deadline" goes by without him, he has "spoken", made clear what he thinks and what he is going to do. Take care of yourself.