[quote=Perna;2281335]I think it is the other way around; a therapist will not/should not deliberately keep making promises and not go through with them or not respond to phone calls (unless they have have a boundary of "no phone calls"); that is not schema therapy.

As in the thread you are reading about not being offered a new appointment, the client has experienced the abandonment schema from parents/significant others in her life so "sees" it everywhere even before checking to see if that is what is happening.

It's kind of a thought fallacy or projection on one's part. We learn that "All that glitters is gold" then that "glass glitters" and conclude, "Therefore, glass is gold." People who have abandoned me in my past did so by making promises and not going through with them and not responding to my phone calls. My T did not respond to my phone call, therefore, my T has abandoned me. Meanwhile, T could be in the hospital unable to call or had to take the next flight out to Timbuktu to be with her dying mother and only has her cell phone which doesn't get reception out there, who knows until contact is made with someone who can say for sure, why T did not call back (yet).[/quote

That is very insightfull and on the spot! BUT what does the therapist wants ( proffesionally in order to help) This has been going on for a year with no responses when I call and promises. I am tired you know! I had a neglecting childhood but nothing like this. From the hole of my heart ..I have a therapist who I truely think is okey and who I have nothing but care for ...I just don´t get the excercice so to speak!