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Default Mar 19, 2012 at 04:08 PM
 
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Originally Posted by skysblue View Post
Can't she teach you without calling you names? One of the reasons I'm seeing a therapist now is because I had a close friend who was a T and she kept telling me bad things about myself. I was called manipulative, deceitful, loved playing the victim, untrustworthy and on and on and on. I believed her because she was a therapist. I got so confused that I literally was losing my mind.

My T now is extremely gentle and never labels me unless it's positive. I'm slowly gaining some sense of self-worth but it would never have gotten as far as it has if she had ever treated me the way your T treats you. I am very sensitive and skittish and would have hidden myself very deeply if I ever had have been punished for sharing my feelings. It took a while for trust to develop. I needed to see again and again that T accepted me - all parts of me - the positive and the not so good. I could never have handled such a cold response that your T has given.

It's like your T is hot sometimes and cold other times. How can you develop trust? How will you know what is a punishable offense? I give you credit for being able to continue on.
One thing you have to remember is that T's are human in and especially out of therapy. My T said once that she told a family member she couldn't help him that he just needed to turn himself into the authorities and go to jail. I can't imagine telling any relative of mine to do that!

I've told T I want her to be "real", maybe she took me TOO seriously!!

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