Stay away from "was", a state of being ("I was hurt" implies all of you was in that state, you were hurtfulness personified :-) and state how you feel/felt.

"I was hurt when you said that in that way"; it might sound picky but I would feel better if it were reversed, "When you said that in that way, I felt hurt." You are trying to talk about what they said and understanding it, not about your feeling hurt. You felt hurt, that is established but you aren't "sure" why you felt hurt, you are exploring the cause and effect so put the possible "cause" first instead of your "I felt hurt when you. . ." which more or less cements their action into place as being a hurtful one and does not allow teasing out why, "when you said that in that way. . . I felt"?

For me, the key is to concentrate on my curiosity about how I tick, not about how they tick :-) It is a little like triggers; we have to disengage our own, it's not the person who pulls it that is the problem, but the trigger being ours in the first place. Your husband said something you found hurtful; rather than dwell on "how" hurt you feel and wishing you did not feel hurt (too late!) or on your husband being a hurtful b#st*rd :-) concentrate on "why" what was said, affected you that way? Don't judge yourself though! You are not bad or wrong for feeling hurt and even if you discover that there was some wrong thought of yours in the way later, rejoice that the opportunity came up to find and fix it!