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Old Mar 19, 2012, 05:10 PM
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It does not sound like he shares your beliefs or is interested in spirituality at all. So, why are you trying to share your beliefs with him; that's exactly what "pushing" feels like?

My husband does not care for or understand fantasy or want to; does not watch Harry Potter/fantasy movies with me, his eyes glaze over when I talk about fantasy novels I might be reading, etc. Why would I talk to him about my love of fantasy anyway when I know it does not interest him? He supports me in my desire to learn more about and enjoy fantasy but it is not his desire for himself. Find a friend who shares your interest in spirituality to talk to.

We can't make another person interested in what we're interested in and that you enjoy listening to his spiritual beliefs is because it is what you enjoy; interests don't transfer, tit for tat. What feels "open" to you and exciting and about you feels like you are pushing him, is boring, and/or he does not "get" that part of you (because he cannot). A man can only get so involved, interested, and understanding of his wife having a baby :-) The spiritual part of you does not have anywhere for him to "meet" you on his part.
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