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Originally Posted by Chopin99
No...they are definitively my problems! Just because she might have issues with boundaries doesn't mean I didn't already have issues with boundaries.
I have never had boundaries of my own and I don't respect the boundaries of other's. Or if I did, it was out of fear...not respect.
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You really are doing some great processing and writing! Bravo!!!
Not to be devil's advocate, but based on what you've written it does appear that your T struggles with boundaries. You do as well (as do I!), BUT I think that Preacherheckler is onto something. How can you learn about good, healthy boundaries from someone who cannot model this for you? You and your T have localized boundaries as one of your core issues. Even if her boundaries might be healthier than yours comparatively, when learning something difficult like this (particularly not when we were supposed to--i.e., growing up from our parents) we need an extra good model for this. Do you feel that your T can model good boundaries for you?