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Originally Posted by cboxpalace
It's interesting that you mention this, because I was writing about this yesterday in another forum. There is truth to this.. I've noticed with myself whether I'm at fault or not.... I automatically assume that I'm in the wrong and at fault regardless. It's learned behavior, and getting to the point where you have no confidence and just assume what the other person says is accurate. For me... this is one of those areas I feel that I can unlearn, because I do believe that I can be more mindful of when it's happening. Hopefully, this makes sense.
Also, you discuss mending fences... If we could talk about this with no stigma attached... I'm not saying people wouldn't leave us... But I do believe more people would stick around since this would be out in the open and no stigma, and it may not automatically be assumed were at fault...I never thought about that..
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yeah cbox....that learned behaviour is full on!
...I just fail to hesitate when thinking that everyone else 'has it together'
to the point of believing that they do. I've been conditioned that way and have taken so much crap for things I was never responsible for....all sorts of things....and then would just have a major brainsnap about it! then suddenly thats just too much and is far worse than whatever was goin' on before.
until recently I just decided it was much safer just to not go out the front door....or the back door...side door...window....
stay the hell out of the world.
getting better at dealin' with it