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Originally Posted by Abby
How do I find that voice?! Why does my therapist not realise I don't have that voice - or does she believe I do have one and therefore doesn't believe me when I say 'i can't and thinks I mean 'I won't.  |
Can you ask her these things? Sounds like a good discussion for you to have.
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Originally Posted by Abby
I am aware that it is good to try and do/think/act/behave differently. I am aware that it is useful to discuss any reasons behind why I am fearful of doing things differently. Intellectually I understand all of this.
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I found what most helped me with fearful thinking was doing what I was afraid of and surviving. Getting through the feared experience, having things turn out well or OK helped convince my brain that I needn't be so afraid. My "success" helped disprove my fear.
It sounds like this whole "be supportive to yourself, Abby" refrain has become a trigger to you. Can you drop that for now and work on a different angle? How about trying some of things you are fearful of? Get a bit more concrete and less abstract than "be supportive." Have some achievable goals and do them. Even if small you will get some success, and it is reinforcing. I agree it would be hard to respond positively if the therapist kept saying "be supportive" over and over again. What else does she try with you?