Hey Nichole, I think bpd comes from invalidation....you just invalidated your traumas by saying that "I think there'd be a lot more of us"! It is something genetic. Something in our environment triggered us to be what we are. Those are some pretty huge things to go on in a child's life. Loss of a parent is huge. Our minds develop fully when we are adults. Our minds are not readily capable to handle huge things such as divorce, death, abuse, ect. ect. Kids are resilient yes, but you take someone who has mental illness in their genetic pool and throw a trauma on it you are bound to see issues. Validation is crucial in being ok with ones self. I know we have this facade of not caring what other thing, march to the beat of our own drum but in reality...well reality ****ing sucked.