Yes, as your T said, if you are able to figure out how to eliminate your desire to be cared for, you will have done what others have not been able to do (and will not be happy or healthy as we need our feelings and desires in order to live).

How about sort of compromising and learning to care for yourself better? If you care for yourself, you won't let others hurt you in the first place and will be able to tell the difference between those who would use/hurt you for their own ends with those who would love and care for you because they love and care for you! That's what "love" means.