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Old Mar 20, 2012, 05:44 PM
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Originally Posted by sconnie892 View Post
My t often reminds me about "I can't" when I use it during a session. She will simply ask "You can't or you choose not to? There is a difference, sconnie." That has really been the first step for me correcting thought patterns. It's taken me over 6 moths to "get" what she was trying to teach me in just that one phrase.
This is a difficult lesson to learn, and Ts have to be very careful how they teach it.

If the patient sincerely believes she can't (and most of us do at first), then telling her she can sounds like nonsense and bullying.
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