Kit, I think that Sky gave you some good advice there. Next time interview your therapist and remember that they are working for you. It can take several tries to find the right one and get the help that you need.

I'm not sure that diagnosis matters a huge amount as long as you and your therapist set goals that are appropriate for you. A lot of those diagnoses you mentioned have some similar symptoms. In particular, dissociation and difficulty with relationships are common themes. Does that feel right to you?

It's hard to tell who you can really trust when you have a history of abuse. I've been slowly working through a book by Charles L. Whitfield, titled "A Gift to Myself." He has another one that is also good, "Healing the Child Within." This book has a chart showing characteristics of safe and unsafe people:

Safe:
listen to you
hear you
make eye contact
accept the real you
validate the real you
nonjudgmental
are real with you
clear
boundaries appropriate and clear
direct
no triangles
supportive
loyal
relationship authentic

Unsafe:
don't listen
don't hear
no eye contact
reject the real you
invalidate the real you
judgmental
false with you
unclear
boundaries unclear, messages mixed
indirect
triangle - in others
competitive
betray
relationship feels contrived