I hope I can remind you a little about how lucky you are. I was and still am naive and childish. When I was a teen, my mom went nuts on me because I wouldn't do what the other kids did. Heck, didn't she know what they did? Why would she want me to be like that? They did a lot of drinking, unsafe things, hooking up... from maybe age 14. I was home safe. And my mom hated that.

Back then there were no computers for home use that were affordable, so I spent my time reading a lot, both fiction and nonfiction. I had a few other interests like art, pen pals in other countries and playing the guitar. Most my activities were solitary (even though I always had a few friends).

Let her grow up at her own pace. Don't try to rush her into the adult world.

Is she also ADD, and is she still on Concerta? Sometimes a mix of ADD and Asperger's can do weird things. ADD can soften the AS, since you will not have the same ability to focus on your interests. If then you are put on a mind enhancing drug, you could focus on your stuff more. With ADD that is a good thing, but throw in AS and you will of course want to hyperfocus on your interest, not on things you find boring.

Have you asked her what she wants to do for the summer? Maybe she has a few ideas on her own. If you set up some kind of daily schedule, make sure it includes you as well. If she is not allowed to cheat off the schedule, you're not either. If a movie you always wanted to watch comes on on TV and it's not TV night, you just need to suck it up.

I would suggest a schedule where she has quite a bit of time doing her own thing. When you do what you like, time flies and staying on the computer just for 30 minutes is sort of a dream, make it more realistic. Maybe her own time needs to be four times as long as your together time.

There are lots of things you can do together and still separate. Where you both stay busy in the activity but you still spend time together. Some have been suggested. Now I'm just talking ME here, but at that age I probably had appreciated things like drawing and painting together, hike in the woods, go to a petting zoo, play board games, bake bread, go to the library and had it been possible back then, videogaming together.

Touching can be iffy. You can get desensitized to touch so it feels more OK, also if it is done regularly by someone you can maybe learn to tolerate it from that person. Ask if you can hug her. Maybe you can, maybe not. Hugs are the worst for me. Neck rub or back massage is fine though for me.

And don't forget to tell her you appreciate her.