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Old Mar 21, 2012, 07:56 PM
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Hello redbull, welcome to PC.

Hmmm, well at first when I read your question I had to think but then I didn't have to think too long. Now, I have PTSD and unfortunately for me I am now very aware when my anxiety or panic kicked in. Unfortunately in my experiencing PTSD I have encountered this thing that comes with some PTSD called Flashbacks. And I have learned from my Flashbacks that I was very young when I started to experience anxiety and panic to be honest. I was actually younger than 2 years old. I cannot quite make out what happened in that flashback but I was VERY afraid and I mostly have so far had body memories of that, so far all I can see is my crib somehow, that I was very little. And after questioning my parents about where I was at that age, I knew the house but found out at first I shared a room with my older sister. Well, she tried to kill my older brother, so god knows what she may have done to me.

Oh, I don't want to scare you. But often this problem begins much earlier then we truely remember. As children we are designed how to LEARN how to comfort ourselves and if that doesn't happen we can struggle later on, and I did.

Now we have to recognize that we ARE primates really. So some of the things that we do to help sooth us can actually be very similar to primates. Trichotilimania, well when I think of that, I instantly get a picture in my mind of primates that practice that constantly with each other and themselves. To be honest, I think most people do some kind of picking at themselves. Yes I know that people with Tric, do it more, but it is a method used to self sooth, and well, lets face it, it works.

When we grow up without the normal parental participation in learning and mastering anxiety and self soothing, we do create our own methods ourselves. I know I did, and I never really thought about it that much until I struggled with PTSD and I could not help but notice my little soothing habits. I remember when I was little I used to twist my hair constantly in my fingers. I used to do it in my sleep because I was so stressed as a child. I can remember my mother constantly struggling to comb my hair and then she finally took me to the hairdresser and my hair was cut very short. I panicked because I suddenly did not have my little method of self soothing that I so needed somehow.

As a matter of fact, I hate going to hairdressers and have always insisted on doing my own hair. And yes, when I am stressed, I still twittle it in my fingers.

Hmmm ADHD, well I can understand the video game choice. However don't give up the art, it is a good relaxation method, you can go back to it eventually. I think my daughter's boyfriend has that. He has a hard time sitting still and he owns his own business and does a lot of different things revolving around bulldozers and other machines along with all kinds of outdoor work. In the winter he plows and still does other active work. And he cannot truely sit still at the movies either unless my daughter is scratching his arm or something. Come to think about it my husband has a bit of that as well.

No matter, you are still going to be a good person, you will just be active. And that will help with the anxiety as well.

However, warning, do not get involved with drugs and alchohol. That will tax and ruin the qualities you can tap into where the ADHD will not be a problem.

Well, I guess I took the long route to answering your question redbull. I have habit of doing that.

Open Eyes
Thanks for this!
redbull