Ah. I see. I forgot about DBT and the rules about safety plans . . . . Isn't self-harm a thing to be extinguished, though?--not like s attempts? I can't remember . . . In any case, DBT is worth the strain of working through it. In all cases, though, A has your best interests in mind, as I hope you have your own, too. It's a matter of coping and doing your best and not giving up just because it all goes to hell sometimes. Take a deep breath in whatever space you can find it. Think about whether or not that's the way you want to find that deep breath, look for a few alternatives to have on hand, just because nothing works all the time, and take a look at an older person's arms who's been cutting for awhile. The skin looks so sloppy and bad. You think wrinkles and cellulite are bad? Hah. Look at wobbly batwings arms and scars from SI. It gives you a whole new perspective--especially if those arms are your own . . . There are better ways, and DBT helps you find your own (DBT suggestions didn't really work for me for very long or very often, but they started me in looking hard for solutions that would work for me and that I could remember and get access to--things that felt right for me, even though they didn't satisfy. But they were enough almost every time and for years and years, with very few slip-ups. So, that's the way it goes for me . . . . )