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Originally Posted by Snuffleupagus
I am feeling inspired by you, mcl. After telling me she'll respond to emails within 12 hours, my therapist has still not gotten back to me 3 days later. She knows I've got therapy anxiety because of my last rotten experience and told me it was very important to her that our relationship not cause me grief, hence the 12 hour rule. I reached out to her because I was in pain. I, then, wrote 2 more emails on the subsequent days saying I was bothered that she wasn't living up to our bargain.
I know she read them all directly after I sent them because the subject lines go from bold to regular type in my outbox once the provider opens the email. I do not want to go through this c rap again. I can have people be unreliable in real life. I don't need it done professionally. I feel like if she doesn't get back to me by the end of the day, that's it. I'm done. Maybe I'll try another therapist someday, but it's gonna be a while. I do not enjoy the drama. Your path tempts me.
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Bit of a sidetrack I know, but contact between sessions is a major source of anxiety and drama for me as well. That said, my T has been clear she won't necessarily reply to all, but she will mention any emails for discussion in the following session. She normally responds to admin related stuff via email but is reluctant to engage with emotional emails between session. I can ring her though and I think she prefers that.
I think this out of session contact business causes angst for a lot of people. It isn't good if your T has made a bargain with you and not stuck to it. It might be good to try and talk this one through with her rather than leave though. I feel upset when T doesn't respond and it has led me to avoiding the use of email, but the underlying feelings of sadness and even anger over the issue are still there. I think I need to work through them and feel the freedom in being able to do that. Much easier said than done because the whole idea scares me silly, but it's my aim.
It might help you and your T if you can tell her how her lack of replies feel particularly if she agreed with you that she would respond within a set time. Obviously it can only be your choice, but just a thought.