I am currently seperated from my wife of five years and it looks like divorce is inevitable. We have been seperated for 8 months. I obviously still love her and want her. I had slowly been accepting and had resolved that the relationship was over. But, I had thought (naively) that she had least been faithful to her marriage vows and had not been sleeping with other men. Well, through a mutual friend, I was told yesterday that she had been fooling around with not one but two guys over the last 8months. The friend told me that she had absolutely no remorse about what she had done to me. I knew she had a history of manipulated and lying to others. But, for some stupid reason, I thought I was immune from it and it couldn't possibly happen to me. My own counselor had told me look up 3 Personality disorders. Borderline, Histrionic, and Narcissistic. I now have an eye-opener through researching these problems. I only wish I knew of a way to deal with them. But, they are her problems and not mine. So I must own my problems and not own her problems indirectly.