((((Music Rules Me)))))),

Seeing a therapist is not about how long or should have's long ago, or it is too late, or they will think it is too late etc. A therapist is a kind of tool we use when we ARE feeling the way you are describing yourself. So far, you have not been able to sort things out on your own and you are allowing a bad experience to affect your whole life. But this is what happens when we do experience something bad, it does change us, however we can learn to find ways to NOT allow it to continue to affect our ability to be happy in life.

We are designed to learn from the bad things we experience in life and we do that emotionally as well. But this is because we need this in order to thrive and survive as human beings. I often use snakes as an example where if we get bitten by one we then determine that ALL snakes are bad. However, the truth is not all snakes are poisenous and they DO serve a purpose in nature. And because some human beings have studied snake we can learn from them that there are snakes that are truely harmless and here is what to look for when you see snakes.

Well, yes, you did have a very troubling experience Music Rules Me, should not have happened to you and I can't blame you for being troubled by it. However, my therapist told me (I am not sure the exact percentage) that around 71/2% of women experience rape. While that number may seem low when we consider the number of women in the world, that means thousands of women and that is a lot of women (I was druged and date raped too). So the truth is that you are not alone in your personal experience and it certainly should not mean that your life is now not yours to enjoy anymore because not all men are poisenous and you are truely not ruined, you can learn to recover from this. Something bad happened but you can learn from it and continue to survive, even be happy again.

When we experience something bad that we cannot seem to sort out, working with a therapist can take place at any time there is no time limit in seeking help to recover/heal. And we can feel depressed if we cannot find a way on our own to learn how to heal and allow ourselves to be happy again. And we are all designed to have the capacity to learn from the bad and continue on in our lives.

Look, I am not telling you to date this guy or be with him on a different level, the decision is yours. However, what I am telling you is that you need to learn how to go out in the garden of life instead of just thinking that some snake might be in it that might bite you. Because the truth is that yes, there may be a snake in the garden but so many of them are harmless and need to be a part of a healthy beautiful garden. You CAN learn that and allow yourself to go out and enjoy the garden of life again, you really can and truely do deserve to learn just how to do so.

((((Hugs))))
Open Eyes