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Old Mar 22, 2012, 01:27 PM
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Hey Music...you don't have to feel bad/guilty if you're no longer comfortable around this friend who now wants something more. It's a risk that one takes to try and convert a friendship into a romantic relationship, and this risk is always that the feelings will not be returned and that the nature of the relationship will change. Some people just handle this differently. I'm like you, I usually feel uncomfortable if a friend admits to feeling more...on the other hand, my sister chooses to feel flattered and just politely tells the guy that she doesn't return the feelings. Your friend made the choice to tell you, and you are not to be blamed if you don't return his feelings....sometimes an awkward situation is just that...awkward, with no one really to blame. Eventually, both you and he will get over it...just let time works its magic with this one.

I'm more concerned that you have not dealt with the rape from last summer and gotten some support from others who have been through the same thing. It's especially hard if you were drugged and may not remember everything that happened. I think that feeling depressed and scared is pretty normal....but, you have to fight a bit to get past those things that are getting in the way of you living your life....a good therapist would be ideal...but do you have at least one friend that you can trust? If not, I think the folks on this site are a good place to start....
Thanks for this!
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