Thanks everyone for sharing!
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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
. But often this problem begins much earlier then we truely remember. As children we are designed how to LEARN how to comfort ourselves and if that doesn't happen we can struggle later on, and I did.
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Hi Open Eyes, what you've said here is really what I would like to find out. I agree that as kids there's coping mechanisms that are already there. What I really want to know is, where along the way did the strategies for coping get messed up for me? If there's a way to return to how I handled the situation when it first started, maybe I wouldn't be so afraid to put myself in an unknown situation. <--I hope that makes sense
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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
To be honest, I think most people do some kind of picking at themselves. Yes I know that people with Tric, do it more, but it is a method used to self sooth, and well, lets face it, it works.
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I honestly never considered my Tric to be a form of self soothing. But I've never talked to anyone about it, no one even knows I do it..I hide it very well.
You've got me thinking about it in a totally different way now.
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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
When we grow up without the normal parental participation in learning and mastering anxiety and self soothing, we do create our own methods ourselves. I know I did, and I never really thought about it that much until I struggled with PTSD and I could not help but notice my little soothing habits. I remember when I was little I used to twist my hair constantly in my fingers. I used to do it in my sleep because I was so stressed as a child. I can remember my mother constantly struggling to comb my hair and then she finally took me to the hairdresser and my hair was cut very short. I panicked because I suddenly did not have my little method of self soothing that I so needed somehow.
As a matter of fact, I hate going to hairdressers and have always insisted on doing my own hair. And yes, when I am stressed, I still twittle it in my fingers.
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My mum cut my hair as well when I was six. I used to always play with my hair, put it in my mouth etc. but after she cut it I hated not being able to do that anymore. I then would pinch the short hairs and pull on them..I think maybe that was the start of the tric for me. idk.