Omg yes! 3 days ago my mother and I started fighting, 2 days ago I told her she can kick rocks and to leave me alone for good, yesterday I screamed every single name in the book and told her to eff off and never call me again. She continued to call and eventually gave up and went to fb messages. It is easier not to yell at her thru messages but I keep saying if she wants to make arrangements to see the kids (which she has never taken them EVER) then she can message me a date and time and I will see what I can do, other wise just leave me alone. I have been thru some terrible fights with ppl in my life but the venom coming from my mouth was the worst I have seen in my entire life. Even my husband came and grabbed the phone away from me and kept it until I calmed down. He has never seen my like that before lol. So I completely understand how a mother can trigger you into a full blown, claws retracted brawl. You are on to something right, putting some space between you guys. That's what I am doing and it feels so liberating not having to think about the next time she pisses me of or hurts me with put downs. Good luck, ugh!