Rainbow,
I used to REALLY struggle with this. And I learned that I can't talk too much with friends about feelings. That doesn't mean that I don't open up and let people in--I have some very close friends with whom I have deeper conversations. But, when I started to be able to be more satisfied in my relationships is when I learned to find friends to do lighter things with in addition to deeper friends. I learned about how to talk about things like politics, sports, current events, etc. (insert whatever interests you) when going out to dinner with them and I learned that I was also nourished from these interactions. Therefore, I found that I needed deeper feeling conversations less. It was soooo hard at first to feel nourished from these seemingly superficial conversations, but then I learned that I can get a lot from these interactions so I needed to talk about my feelings less and reserved these conversations for a select few people and my therapist (besides journaling). I discovered that most people don't want deep feeling conversations often, so I had to adapt. Don't get me wrong, I still love such deeper conversations and I also appreciate them more now because I have them with fewer people so I feel a stronger connection and don't force deeper conversations so don't tend to scare people off, which was very upsetting to me. Does this make sense? Lighter conversations, I found, happens best in groups or while doing activities rather than one-on-one. The first people I really did this with were a couple that I didn't know well from my PhD program and we'd go for dinner about once a week. Not being well acquainted limited our conversation topics to not deeply personal things and I have very fond memories of my time with them.