I also am stuck riding buses with serious hang ups about strange men. I have at times had to calm myself down and remind myself that I am not in the same situation I was in when I was assaulted. Try to ground myself in the moment. Carrying pepper spray everywhere helps too.

In my experience, people take talking about sexual abuse/assault in public forums as manipulative or over-sharing, despite the fact that it's something those who have suffered the abuse have to deal with every day. My therapist always discourages talking about it to so openly, despite the fact that he wishes it was something that could be shared and gets angry about people 'silencing' me, because of responses like what you experienced. He also stresses me reintegrating, trying to ground myself in the moment and live the way I did before in public situations. You're safe now. And maybe, like me, you'll find some small measure of solace in carrying pepper spray and a small pocket knife everywhere you go.