Thank you so much, dragonfly! She was in speech therapy when she lived with me. It really helped her a lot. I'll check out that link.

Right now her father has full custody. I've always left it up to her to decide where she wants to live. She's chosen him for the past 5 years. If she asks to stay here when she comes then I'll go back to court. I know she's not getting any services with her father, and it angers me. I did write to the school down there and explained her situation to them. They took my suggestions to heart and got her an IEP and a mentor in high school. She gets good grades but gets teased a lot. There is a wonderful school here specifically for Asperger's kids that I'd love to get her into. But she has to want to live with me first. One step at a time!